I totally agree Peta. There may occasionally be a conversation that really will work better without allies, but in general working with allies just seems like it'll be better. In the end, the categories we draw (heterosexual, gay, queer, etc. aren't solid. Within each there's diversity, and the lines between them aren't absolute. I think including allies will make it more possible to shift to a view that our categories don't work and that there're differences and commonalities between everyone.